I can't tell you how many people have told me that I am going to pay way less attention to Neely once this new baby arrives. It seems like most people have thought that or said it.
And honestly? It's very offensive.
People said the same thing to me about the dogs.
"Oh, poor Kiki & Sinatra, they'll never get cuddled again." or "You'll love them way less when you have Neely." or "Poor dogs, they're not going to get any attention."
And me, being the chihuahua that I am (to quote Shakespeare, And though she be but little, she is fierce.) I got mad and took it as a personal challenge to prove everyone wrong. And I did. I made it a point to spend as much time holding and petting the dogs as I did pre-Neely. I still do. Three years later my dogs have never had less of me than they did before.
And these are "just" dogs.
For people to say this to me about an actual human, the girl who made me into a mother, the light of my life, my favorite person ever invented, it's ridiculous. And I know people don't mean any harm by it, but seriously?
What they may not understand is that I never felt 100% amazing or great at anything until Neely was born. The minute I held her I thought, "THIS is what God created me to be. Neely's mom." I have almost always felt confident in every choice I've made for her as a mother. I feel like before Neely I was floating around, doing this or that, just biding my time until my real life started. And in March of 2010, it did. It started.
Sarah the Mama was created.
Sarah who never felt good at many things in a family oozing talent, knew she was great at mothering.
This is the difference between those people and me.
I was made to be a mother. It may sound boring to some, but it is truly all I ever wanted to do. I was made to have these children and pour out my love and affection into them; the same love and affection I was shown by my mom my entire life.
So no, I will never ever give Neely less attention.
She will never feel like Mabel has stolen her spotlight. She will never feel unwanted or like she has to compete.
I will use every ounce of strength in me to make sure my two daughters (daughters!!) feel adored and cherished by their mama.